How parents can help their kids remain happy post-divorce

| Oct 29, 2018 | Divorce |

Most couples planning to marry in Texas don’t think about what may happen in the event of a divorce. Still, circumstances and feelings can evolve over time. If children are involved by the time a marriage ends, things can be even more complicated. Because parenting doesn’t end after the marital knot is legally untied, parents should take steps to be sensitive to their children’s needs during the transition.

Maintaining consistency during the divorce process, for instance, may give kids a better sense of control as other things change around them. This could include establishing expectations with behavior, chores and schoolwork that will apply in both households, even if parenting styles differ in some ways. When there are disagreements with discipline and other decisions, a parent might set an example of compromise and cooperation by supporting their ex instead of openly opposing them (as long as their actions are acceptable and not harmful to the child).

Parents wishing to make things easier for their kids are also advised to honestly answer questions about the divorce in a way that’s appropriate. This typically means not discussing negative details about what led to the split and not openly disparaging the other parent. Negative talk often makes children feel like they have to take sides. When parents are separated by great distances, making an effort to create shared experiences with video chats or by watching a movie online at the same time may help everyone feel involved.

If there should be a custody dispute or issues with one parent not sticking to the established co-parenting schedule, a family law attorney may make an attempt to work out such problems amicably without getting the court involved. In some instances, a lawyer may suggest seeking sole custody if one parent consistently remains disengaged.